You know that day when you’re trying to avoid temptation? Maybe you have leftover birthday cake, but you’re avoiding it. So instead, you have a small serving of something, but that doesn’t do it, so you have a little bit of this, and a little bit of that – all good “on plan” food, but the quantity gets out of hand. In the end you’ve probably taken in more calories than the cake would have given you, and you’re STILL not satisfied.
That’s not really hunger, is it? That’s desire for soothing. Some go to food, others to drink, others to work and the drive for success, still others to exercise, cleaning, organizing, — whatever their coping mechanism.
Where does that come from? It may have nothing to do with one’s current situation. It’s often more an underlying ache, a heartbreak, a haunting memory, and we just can’t get rid of it.
It comes from our wounds.
The core issue for us is around our wound, and wounds direct our choices and actions. We had to learn how to cope with the wound, and we did the best we could at the time. Years later, that coping mechanism may not fit our lives and desires, but it’s what we know, and when in a similar situation, we use what works – whether we want to or not.
What if we healed the wound? If it no longer drove your actions, what would that do for you? Can you imagine being free of the emotional charge around that?
Where would you begin? Look at the list from the last couple of weeks. Sorting these beliefs, issues, themes will result in healing if you stay with it. It’s not enough to identify it – you already know what it is, don’t you? Has that knowledge helped? Perhaps some, but what would healing the wound do?
Honestly, healing my wounds did more for me than any diet ever had. It’s not easy, and it’s certainly not painless, but being free is worth it. There may be other wounds, but it gets easier to let them heal, partly because you know the relief and freedom it brings.
So what wound would you like to work on this summer?