We know our goal, we know our why, we even have ideas for alternative behaviors and options to change our habits. If you’re in a groove with this – FANTASTIC! You’re on your way! Carry on, and let us know how you’re doing.
If you’re struggling a bit, you’re not alone.
This is one of the main reasons people come to me. They know their goal and probably their why. Finding alternative behaviors and successfully changing the habits – that’s hard to do on our own. It’s HARD to choose to stay with the new behaviors until they become our “go-to.” I know I needed support and accountability to end my 40-year Diet Yo-Yo. There’s no shame in that. We’ve done it the other way for a long time.
What’s the problem? Specifically – what’s holding you in that old pattern, that familiar food cycle, that go-to detour? Do you know? Get the big shovel – this could take some digging. Like many of you, I also needed help with this. We just can’t see our own stuff objectively like someone else can.
The Process
I used to say something like I’m mad or frustrated, or maybe I was hurt; but honestly, those were masks for something deeper. Yes, outwardly, I was mad or frustrated or hurt, but what else was there?
Ask yourself: Why? What just happened to create that emotion?
Even more, what’s under that?
To find that, ask yourself: When have you felt this way before?
How is it connected to food in general or a specific food? What is it you are trying to soothe by putting food in your mouth?
Yes, I know this is kind of deep, and it could be a hard thing to face, but these are the initial questions I ask my clients to answer. We have to find what’s driving the bus so we can take away the keys. Otherwise, it just keeps driving, dragging us along with it to places we have no desire to go.
The good news is that once we find what’s driving it, we can unwind it. It’s that “a-ha” moment that changes everything.
If you’d like a little help finding the driver, let’s talk: [email protected]
