How are those resolutions going? Still at it? Well done. Keep doing what you’re doing.
Abandoned already? Okay, it happens. Shall we start again? They never say you only get one shot at keeping a resolution.
In my book, What’s Really Eating You: Overcome the Triggers of Comfort Eating, I have a full chapter devoted to resolutions because they can be so thorny, but the key is resolving the issues driving the behavior you want to change.
Wish it were magic. It isn’t. Sorry.
How do we do that?
After 40 years on the Diet Yo-Yo, the difference for me came from addressing four areas:
1. Heal your heart
2. Accountability
3. Sustained and practical good nutrition
4. Exercise as a building your body – not as punishment for what you ate.
Heal Your Heart
Honestly, this is a linchpin. Sort this out, and everything else is manageable. When we’re not questioning our worth or feeling awful about ourselves or talking harshly to ourselves, we need a lot less soothing, and that saves a lot of calories. How much less stressful would the day be without the way you beat up your own heart? Not even considering what someone else might say, but what if you stopped all that negative self-talk?
What are the self-inflicted wounds?
How can you change what you say to yourself? Use an alarm or a sticky note or a symbol to remind you to change that. Again, it’s not magic, but consistent changes work.
Then identify wounds from others or the multiplied stresses at work that send you searching for a moment’s peace.
My mantra when I was losing weight was “Face your stuff; don’t stuff your face.” It was hard to identify what I was trying to stuff down and follow with that food chaser, but I got some help, and that made all the difference.
If you need a little help, don’t hesitate to contact me. We can get you where you want to go.
To see the video: https://youtu.be/BkCyldHZRYY
